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Synchronicity - Serendipity - Intuition
The uncanny
coincidence. The unlikely conjunction of events. The startling serendipity.
Who hasn’t had it happen in their life? You think of someone
for the first time in years, and run into them a few hours later.
An unusual phrase you’d never heard before jumps out at you
three times in the same day. On a back street in a foreign country,
you bump into a college roommate. A book falls off the shelf at the
bookstore and it’s exactly what you need.
Is it
only, as skeptics suggest, selective perception and the law of averages
playing itself out? Or is it, as Carl Jung believed, a glimpse into
the underlying order of the universe? He coined the term synchronicity
to describe what he called the "acausal connecting principle"
that links mind and matter. He said this underlying connectedness
manifests itself through meaningful coincidences that cannot be explained
by cause and effect. Such synchronicities occur, he theorized, when
a strong need arises in the psyche of an individual. He described
three types that he had observed: the coinciding of a thought or feeling
with an outside event; a dream, vision or premonition of something
that then happens in the future; and a dream or vision that coincides
with an event occurring at a distance. No one has come up with a definition
that has superceded his, although there has been debate on whether
events linked to precognition and clairvoyance should be included
as synchronicity.
The law
of attraction when a thought you send out attracts something of like
to you from your deliberate intention (ie to pray or meditate for
or upon, say an affirmation over and over with emotion). Perhaps the
help of unseen spirits?
Some
scientists see a theoretical grounding for synchronicity in quantum
physics, fractal geometry, and chaos theory. They are finding that
the isolation and separation of objects from each other is more apparent
than real; at deeper levels, everything -- atoms, cells, molecules,
plants, animals, people -- participates in a sensitive, flowing web
of information. Physicists have shown, for example, that if two photons
are separated, no matter by how far, a change in one creates a simultaneous
change in the other.
Whatever
its cause, the appeal of synchronicity runs deep. "People love
mysterious things, and synchronicity is like magic happening to them,"
says Carolyn North, author of Synchronicity: The Anatomy of Coincidence
(Regent Press). "It gives us a sense of hope, a sense that something
bigger is happening out there than what we can see, which is especially
important in times like this when there’s so many reasons for
despair."
The more
pragmatic a person, the greater a surprise a synchronistic incident
is -- even mild ones of the sort that happen to most people sooner
or later. For example, Bruce, a corporate lawyer, was stunned the
day that, just as he was getting ready to dial his father, he picked
up the phone and heard his father’s voice on the other end --
calling him. "I said, `Holy smokes!’ We were both dumbfounded!"
he recalls. For a moment in time, synchronicity shattered their assumptions
of cause-and-effect reality.
Some
people, however, would shrug and call this intuition. How are the
two different?
At first
blush, synchronicity and intuition seem to be separate phenomena.
Synchronicity happens "out there": against the odds, something
in the Universe seems to swing into place to answer an inner need
we have. Intuition happens "in here": it’s an inner
knowing, an ability to tune into knowledge in a nonrational, nonlinear
way. We know something but we don’t know how we know it.
Yet the
boundaries get fuzzy very quickly. Jung’s definition of synchronicity
clearly incorporates precognition and clairvoyance, which, by some
people’s definition, are also types of intuition: they are certainly
inner knowing. For example, here’s a mind-boggling synchronicity
story that’s just as mind-boggling when viewed as an intuition
story. Pam's father was chopping down a tree for firewood when it
suddenly fell on him, crushing the left side of his face almost beyond
recognition and shattering his back. Against all odds, he shoved the
tree off of himself and walked a mile for help. Pam flew to Ithaca,
New York, to be with him. It wasn't until weeks later, when she had
returned to New York City, that she picked up the tablet she had been
taking notes on in class at the time the accident had happened. She
had been idly doodling in the margins -- and her drawings included
a face with the left half shaded in black and a person's back with
two Xs on the spine, marking the same vertebrae that her father had
broken.
If we
eliminate Jung’s two psi-related definitions and just focus
on the coinciding of inner and outer events in a way that defies causal
explanation, there can still be an overlapping, because the inner
event can be an intuitive hit. In practice, synchronicity and intuition
sometimes seem so intertwined that it’s hard to tell where one
leaves off and the other begins.
Shelley
was sitting at Notre Dame in Paris giving her sore feet a rest. The
shoes she had worn from the States had turned out to be painful, and
her limited budget didn't allow her to buy another pair. Suddenly
she felt an inner prompting, and she got up, walked out of the church,
and turned left. Following her promptings, she made several other
turns to arrive at a square. There, on top of a trash can, sat a pair
of brand new black boots with no signs of wear -- in exactly her size.
"It was perfect," she said. "If they had been inside
the trash can, I wouldn’t have pulled them out. If they had
been worn before, I wouldn’t have put them on. And they were
so stylish I never could have afforded them myself!"
So is
this an intuition story or a synchronicity story? Intuition got her
to the boots. Synchronicity provided her with precisely what she needed:
she was virtually handed the boots by the Universe.
Some
synchronicities are not the delivery of objects but of insights: something
in the outer world crystallizes or confirms an inner process. Those
synchronicities can "feel" much like intuition: it’s
sudden information perceived by the psyche and experienced as true.
"They’re both messages, but one is internal and one external,"
says John Graham, a former foreign officer who with his wife, Ann
Medlock, runs the Giraffe Project, an intrepid organization in Langley,
Washington, that recognizes people who stick their necks out for the
common good. The organization lives hand to mouth on donations, but
John intuitively knows when a big check is in the morning mail, and
the amount is often synchronistically the exact amount they need to
pay a pressing bill. "Synchronicity and intuition are saying
the same thing, it’s just as if one were speaking French and
the other Spanish," he says.
David
Spangler, an author, teacher, and former guiding light of Findhorn,
believes the two have many underlying similarities. "Intuition
is another form of synchronicity: When I intuit something, there’s
no apparent cause-and-effect relationship between my knowledge and
how I got the knowledge," he says. "Likewise, synchronicity
is precipitated intuition: we know of a connection not inwardly but
outwardly, through action and perception. In both cases, the pattern
carries the same message: we live in a world more intricately and
holistically organized than we may ever have previously supposed."
Ultimately,
it seems that our perception of the two is based on how we experience
the boundary between our inner and outer environments. The more we
feel a part of all around us, the more we engage in a dance of energy
and input from all sides. At that point, it doesn’t matter,
except as a point of passing interest, where the information comes
from: it just comes.
Yet,
until we live at that exalted level of consciousness, we can make
good use of the interplay between the two. For example, some people
develop their intuition using synchronicity as a tool. They follow
an inner urge or message and watch for the results: if a meaningful
coincidence results, it is a sign to them that they’re on the
right track and that they can trust that voice in the future. For
instance, Kathleen was driving toward the mountains for a hike when
she made a split-second decision to go to a pottery studio instead.
"I don’t know why -- it just felt right," she says.
She had thought about stopping there before but had never gotten around
to it. Just as she walked in the door, a woman was putting the finishing
touches on a large ceramic pot. "It’s a drum," she
told Kathleen, "But I don’t know anything about putting
a skin on it." "I’ve make drums!" exclaimed Kathleen.
"I know where to get the skins!" They quickly agreed to
collaborate; in exchange, the woman will give her lessons. "It
confirmed my intution," says Kathleen, "and let me know
that pottery is something I should definitely pursue."
Conversely,
some people make active use of intuitive skills to garner useful coincidences.
Ray Simon, a Massachusetts writer, is constantly scanning the environment
for oddities; he runs quick intuitive checks on them and follows where
they lead him, often with fortuitous outcomes. For example, he was
at a library looking up material on Alfred North Whitehead. A computer
search listed 12 references, the third of which was blank. He pulled
up the information on the third, found out that it actually referred
to a book on Sartre, and so went to the shelves to find it. "These
things are annoying to follow," he says with a laugh. "Your
reasonable mind wants to do things that make sense." Next to
that book was a different one on Sartre, a comic book that laid out
his philosophy in a whimsical format. "I needed that information
because I write computer manuals, and it’s an ongoing battle
to stay light," he says. "That book enriched my life and
expanded my thinking about what could be done."
There’s
something about turning one’s choices over to intuition that
seems to avail oneself to synchronicity," says Allan Combs, Ph.D.,
a psychology professor at the University of North Carolina at Asheville
who co-authored Synchronicity: Science, Myth and the Trickster (Marlowe).
"In practice, that can mean moving from moment to moment when
making decisions, even small decisions -- especially small decisions!
If you expect the unexpected, synchronicity will emerge."
Intuition,
researchers have found, flourishes in a person who is open, receptive
and nonjudgmental. Synchronicity has had little research -- it defies
laboratory tests, of course -- but people who have studied the topic
report a phenomena which Alan Vaughan, author of Incredible Coincidence:
The Baffling World of Synchronicity (Ballantine) calls "the synchronicity
of synchronicity." Just having an active interest in the matter
seems to make synchronicities happen more often -- in part, of course,
because we notice them more.
Likewise,
synchronicity too seems to be dampened by cynicism and doubt. Although
some synchronistic events, like some intuitive hits, cannot be easily
ignored, others are of a subtler nature -- almost dreamlike in their
metaphorical patterns -- and it takes practice both to notice and
decode them.
In her
book The Tao of Psychology: Synchronicity and the Self (HarperCollins).
Jean Shinoda Bolen writes about being at a dinner party with friends
when one woman raised a question: Occasionally, when she closed her
eyes, frightening demonic images would appear. Should she confront
them? examine them? Immediately turn her attention elsewhere? As they
discussed the matter, a skunk started scratching at a sliding glass
door in front of them, trying to get inside.The hosts had never seen
a skunk in the area, and after discussing how odd it was to see one
trying to approach people, they joked about how unlikely it was that
anyone would open a door to one. It was only later that Jean and her
husband realized that the skunk provided a synchronistic answer to
their question: Just as a skunk would stink up a living space, allowing
demonic images in would do the same to one's inner space.
Says
North: "If your belief system is such that intuition and synchronicity
are real and significant, you will notice them. If your belief system
is that they’re hogwash, you won’t."
Flow
responds directly to our beliefs, behaviors, and actions. We can either
enhance this state of perfect timing and flawless serendipity, or
we can diminish it and even cut it off.
Belief
systems also dictate what people attribute the workings of synchronicity
to. When it occurs, they may thank their luck, or fate, or destiny,
or karma, or a miracle, or angels, for example. "Synchronicity
happens when God wishes to remain anonymous," goes one saying.
Carrie and Dan view as divinely inspired the string of happy coincidences
that have allowed them to adopt and raise eleven disabled children
on Dan’s salary as a school cafeteria worker. One month, hit
with several emergencies, they had no money to pay rent -- until lightning
struck, hitting two of their trees. When the insurance adjuster came
by, he wrote out a check so they could have them taken down, but he
said to Carrie with a smile, "If I were you, I wouldn’t
bother taking those trees down -- you’re only going to lose
a branch." The check exactly covered their rent. Said Carrie:
"We thanked God. We walk in his shadow."
As
was true with Carrie and Dan, synchronicity seems to appear often at
times of personal crises and at such passage points as births and deaths.
Sunbathing on a Caribbean beach with her friend Sandy, Mary found herself
thinking sadly about Beth, a mutual friend of theirs who had died unexpectedly
two weeks earlier. Softly, she started humming "Amazing Grace."
When she finished, Sandy said, "That's so strange. I was just thinking
about Beth, and `Amazing Grace' was her favorite song." Mary was
stunned: she had never associated the song with Beth. They later learned
that at the exact time Mary had been humming, Beth's family had been
holding a private memorial for her.
"Synchronicity
seems to happen when you’re intensely caught up in something that’s
very deep -- for instance, falling in makes it pop all over the place,"
says Combs. "A lot of activities that tap into the deep mystery
of life -- things like meditation, contemplative prayer -- also seem
to stir it up."
Synchronicities
are sometimes regarded as signs, and some people consciously use them
to make decisions in life. In the novel The Celestine Prophecy, a
bestseller which thrust synchronicity into the public consciousness,
James Redfield says that all coincidences are significant because
they point the way to an unfolding of our personal destiny.
MaryAnn
had moved to London to live with her boyfriend, only to discover that
she hated the city and that he had a nasty streak. One morning at 6
a.m., after a tearful fight with him, she fled the house and was out
walking the dank, grey streets, feeling completely miserable. Suddenly
a dead bird fell out of the sky and landed at her feet with a plop.
"That did it," she says. "It was a sign from the Universe
and it was shouting, `Go home!' And I did."
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